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How can I remember someone?
You may find that doing something special to remember the person gives you and others comfort. Here are some ideas that other people have found helpful.
Talk about the person who diedSharing your memories with other people can help you cope, and you may learn something new about the person.
Create a tribute pageShare stories and photos on an online memorial page.
Make a memory boxA memory box is a place to keep thing that remind you of the person. You could include photos; a favourite item of clothing, such as a cap or scarf; a bottle of perfume or aftershave; letters or cards; a special recipe; and a record of memories of the person.
Establish an awardYou could set up a memorial prize or scholarship in the name of the person.
Enjoy what they likedYou may cook their favourite meal on their birthday or anniversary; buy their favourite flowers or drink on the anniversary of their death; or share a meal with family and friends on significant days.
Get creativeUse some of their clothing to create a quilt, cushion cover or memory bear; or paint or draw a picture.
Get involved in a cause or make a donation to a charityMany people feel motivated to become involved in an organisation that was special to the person. Others want to raise awareness or fundraise for a charity that helps people with cancer.
Frame photos or create a photobookAside from your favourite photos, you could frame a cherished handwritten note or memento.
Plant a tree, plant or flowersCreate a special area to visit when you want to feel close to the person.
Be preparedPlan ahead for occasions that might be difficult such as birthdays, the
anniversary of the death, and holidays.
Create special ritualsRituals can help you acknowledge a loss, particularly at challenging times such as anniversaries. You could light a candle, listen to special music, visit a certain place or cook their favourite meal.
Remember shared goalsConsider if you still want to do the things you were going to do together
Podcast: Coping with Grief
A/Prof Lisa Beatty, Associate Professor in Clinical Psychology and Consulting Clinical Psychologist, Flinders University Institute of Mental Health and Wellbeing, SA; Sandra Anderson, Consumer; Dr Alexandra Clinch, Palliative Medicine Specialist and Deputy Director, Palliative Care, Peter MacCallum Cancer Centre and Royal Melbourne Hospital, VIC; Christopher Hall, Chief Executive Officer, Grief Australia; Nathan MacArthur, Specialist Grief Counsellor and Accredited Mental Health Social Worker, Sydney Grief Counselling Services, NSW; Linda Magann, Clinical Nurse Consultant – Palliative Care, St George Hospital, NSW; Palliative Care Australia; Richard Upton, Consumer; Lesley Woods, 13 11 20 Consultant, Cancer Council WA.
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