What does advanced cancer mean for carers?

Although advanced cancer is unlikely to be cured, it can often be managed, sometimes for years. Even so, caring for someone with advanced cancer can feel overwhelming.

Learn more about:

• When cancer won’t go away
• Avoiding carer burnout
• Discussing prognosis
• Podcast: Caring for Someone with Advanced Cancer

When cancer won’t go away

Some people’s cancer may be at a late stage when they are first diagnosed. For others, the cancer may have spread or come back (recurred) after treatment. Advanced cancer means the cancer is unlikely to be cured, but it can often be controlled for months or, sometimes, years.

Changes to the caring role

Some people live with advanced cancer as a chronic illness for a long time, so there may not be much difference in your caring role immediately. Other people may feel very unwell, so your responsibilities as a carer are likely to increase and may become more complex almost overnight. This may give you little time to adjust to the new situation.

How you might feel – Caring for someone with advanced cancer can feel overwhelming. You may be trying to support the person, while coming to terms with the diagnosis yourself. You may be experiencing a range of strong emotions such as denial, fear, anger, sadnessand grief. A diagnosis of advanced cancer also means living with uncertainty about what lies ahead, and this can be challenging.

Family and friends – As well as having to manage your own emotions, you may also have to tell other family members and friends. This can be time-consuming and difficult, and their reactions may add to your distress. Use text messages, email, blogs or social media, or write one letter and send copies to people. If you need support, talk to your GP or a hospital social worker, or call Cancer Council 13 11 20.

Discussing prognosis

After a diagnosis of advanced cancer, some people want to know how long they have left to live. Others prefer not to know. It’s a very personal decision.

If the person you are caring for prefers not to know, you may still want some idea of what to expect. This can help you understand what is happening and prepare for the changes. You can ask the person if they will give their treatment team permission to speak to you alone.

The health professionals may give you a general idea of the person’s life expectancy. This is known as the prognosis and it is likely to sound a bit vague.

They will probably talk about the time in terms of days, days to weeks, weeks to months, or months to years. The actual time could be shorter or longer, because each individual responds differently to treatment.

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Podcast: Caring for Someone with Advanced Cancer

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