Long-distance caring

Some people live away from the person with cancer. You may feel guilty for not being closer, and you may feel you are the last one to know about treatment and care.

Living away from the everyday care may give you a different perspective on the situation. In some cases, this could help you solve problems or coordinate care more effectively.

Ways to stay involved when living long-distance

• If someone else is the primary carer, ask what you can do to support them.
• Create a local support network. You could start by connecting with relatives and friends who can visit the person regularly. You can also talk to the hospital social worker about arranging volunteer and paid care workers, or call Cancer Council 13 11 20 to find out what support is available in the person’s local area.
• Consider using websites such as Gather My Crew to coordinate offers of help.
• Keep an up-to-date contact list of the health care team members who are looking after the person with cancer.
• Use technology to stay in touch. Options to consider include email, blogging, text messaging, Skype, Facebook and video conferencing apps such as Zoom.
• Ask the person if their health professional will allow them to record consultations so you can hear what was discussed, or join the consult by telephone.
• Research telephone (landline and mobile) and internet plans with different providers to reduce costs.
• Set aside money so you are prepared if you have to travel suddenly.
• Create an emergency care plan and give copies to the carer and emergency contacts you have nominated.