- Cancer Information
- Caring for someone with cancer
- How will you feel as a carer?
- Ways to manage your emotions
Ways to manage your emotions
For many carers, it is hard to find the time or energy to look after their own emotional wellbeing. However, some simple strategies can help you feel more in control.
Clear your mind
Regular exercise has been shown to help with feelings of anger, stress, anxiety and depression. Remember that some exercise is better than none, and even a brisk walk around the block can help clear your head.
Take a break
It is important to take time to care for yourself. Do something you find relaxing such as listening to music, reading, taking a bath or having a massage. Respite care is available for short or longer periods and may give you the break you need.
Talk it over
Share your concerns with the person you care for, or with someone else you trust. Another option is to call Cancer Council 13 11 20 or Carers Australia 1800 242 636 to talk to someone about how you are feeling. They can listen to your concerns without judgement and help you find further support if you need it. You can also call Lifeline 13 11 14 for crisis support at any time of day or night.
Speak to your doctor
If at any stage you feel that you are not coping, your GP can refer you to a counsellor and prescribe a short course of medicine if needed.
Find out what to expect
Information can help you understand what to expect, and plan for any changes. This may make you feel more secure.
Be kind to yourself
No-one is a “perfect” carer. It is often a demanding role and everyone has bad days. Try to avoid using the words “should” or “must”, and accept that you are doing the best you can.
Join a support group
There are face-to-face, internet and telephone support groups for carers. These groups meet regularly to share their experiences. See Support and Information for more information about support groups.
Use technology such as email, Facebook or a blog to stay in touch with family and friends. You can also visit Cancer Council Online Community to connect with others in a similar situation.
If you appear to manage on your own, people may assume you’re okay, but they often do want to help. Reduce your workload by accepting help with practical tasks such as shopping or housework.
Tina Chivende, Social Worker, Cancer Psychosocial Service, Canberra Region Cancer Centre, ACT; Gabrielle Asprey, Telephone Support Group Facilitator, Cancer Council NSW; Dr Ben Britton, Senior Clinical and Health Psychologist, Calvary Mater Newcastle and John Hunter Hospital, and Conjoint Lecturer, School of Medicine and Public Health, University of Newcastle, NSW; Valmai Goodwin, Psychologist, Cancer Counselling Service, Cancer Council QLD; Karen Hall, 13 11 20 Consultant, Cancer Council SA; Zoe Mitchell, Senior Social Worker, Palliative Care, Fiona Stanley Hospital, WA; Amber Rose, Consumer; Carolina Simpson, Policy and Development Officer, Carers NSW.
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