Sexuality, intimacy and cancer

Cancer – and some treatments for cancer – can affect your sex life and relationships. This section offers practical tips and support to help you adapt to physical and emotional changes.

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Sex during treatment

  • Will this treatment affect my sex life or libido?
  • What are the risks of treatment? Is there any chance this could permanently affect my sex life?
  • What can be done so I can keep enjoying sex and preserve sexual function?
  • How will this treatment affect my hormones?
  • Will this treatment affect my fertility? What can I do about it?
  • What changes are likely to be temporary? How long will they last? Are any changes permanent?
  • What treatment options are available to help with sexual issues after cancer?
  • When is it safe to have sex again?
  • When can I expect to feel like, or enjoy, having sex or being intimate again? How soon can I masturbate?
  • I want to have sex but I have no sexual thoughts and find it hard to feel aroused. What can I do?

Side effects and safety concerns

  • What sort of problems might we experience during intercourse or penetration?
  • Should we take any precautions when having sex?
  • What kind of contraception should we use and for how long? Is it safe to get pregnant?
  • I am having trouble feeling confident about my body and reaching orgasm. Will it always be like this?
  • I’m afraid I can’t satisfy my partner any more. What can I do?
  • Sex doesn’t feel the same as it used to. What can I do?
  • Is there anything I should be careful about when I have sex?
  • Will the cancer come back if I have sex?
  • I just don’t have any feelings of sexual desire any more, is there anything that could help?
  • Are there complementary therapies I could try? Or over-the-counter products I should avoid?
  • Can you refer me to a sex therapist?
  • Will I still experience the same sexual sensations after having this treatment?
  • Will menopause hormone therapy be necessary? Or can it be beneficial?
  • I have vaginal dryness. What do you recommend?
  • Is it safe to use an oestrogen cream?
  • I have pain when we try to have intercourse. What’s going on and how can I get help?
  • How can I stretch my vagina? Is it safe and who can help me learn about vaginal dilators?
  • How can I manage the symptoms of menopause?
  • Why can’t I get an erection? Will this be temporary?
  • What are the options if I can’t get an erection?
  • Why don’t I ejaculate anymore?
  • What can I do if I have pain during sex or when I get an erection?
  • What are the fertility preservation options available to me?

LGBTQI+ specific questions

  • Is this clinic LGBTQI+ friendly?
  • Can you recommend a sex therapist who is LGBTQI+ friendly?
  • Will you include my partner in discussions about my sexual concerns and treatment options?
  • How will cancer treatment interact with gender affirmation hormones?
  • Do you know of any LGBTQI+ support groups?

Being told you have cancer

Watch this video to learn what to expect after a cancer diagnosis, and how Cancer Council and your care team can support you.

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