When you don’t want to talk

You may find that you don’t want to talk about your fears and concerns with family and friends. This may be because you feel uncomfortable discussing private matters, you don’t have the words to describe how you feel, or you fear becoming upset or overwhelmed.

Sometimes putting things into words makes it seem more real, and you may not feel ready to address some of these concerns. Everyone handles a cancer diagnosis in their own way. If you don’t want to talk, your wishes should be respected.

Ways to share how you're feeling

If you’re having trouble talking to others about personal issues, here are some ways you can share your experiences:

  • Let others help − Try to allow others to provide support, as this can help you adjust to your situation and cope better with your own emotions.
  • Join a support group − Talking about your fears and concerns with people who are going through a similar experience can often be easier. Join a support group, talk to a health professional or call Cancer Council 13 11 20.
  • Express your feelings creatively − Explore your feelings by writing in a journal or making something creative like an artwork or a song. This can help you to release your emotions if you find it difficult to talk to others.

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